Moving country on your own can have its ups and downs. In my first week here, I felt both extremely excited and a bit lonely at times. Thankfully, there are ways to combat the loneliness until I settle completely, I just have to be open to the new possibilities! And today I’m sharing these ideas with you…
Meet people online
Instagram is probably the best app ever created because it allows you to meet people that share common interests (I guess Twitter is a bit the same). Through Instagram, I’ve met people my age with blogs (or not) that live in different cities across the world. It’s even better if they live in your new city. I’m meeting two of them in the coming week and I’m really looking forward to it. The easiest way is start a conversation with them about things you have in common or to reply to one of their posts and then who knows, maybe you will meet IRL and it will feel like you’ve been friends forever!
I’ve also heard of Bumble Bff, which is basically an app to meet friends, and I’m definitely planning on trying it!
While making friends is hard, you can always attend events. I’m talking events about something you love; a book Q&As with an author you like, a live podcast recordings, music shows, etc. Just the feeling of being surrounded with people that are there for the same reason you are can have a big impact on how you’re feeling. And although it can be harder to strike up a conversation with the people there because you feel vulnerable, these people are there for the same reason you are.
Events are easy to find on social media, but also on places like Eventbrite. If you’re into books like me, it’s worth checking bookstores and following your favourite authors.
Create background noise
This advice is for people who live on their own and have a lot of solitary time. Creating background noise, either by listening to a podcast, watching a YouTube video or putting on a movie, can make all the difference. Listen to these things while you walk on your own, while you cook or eat or while you’re cleaning up. What I like about podcasts is that they feel very intimate and often you’ll feel like you’re part of a conversation with friends. For podcast recommendations, see here, but at the moment I’ve really been loving ‘Things You Can’t Ask Yer Mum’ by Lindsey Holland and Lizzy Hadfield.
What are your tips for feeling less lonely in a new city?