The Importance of New Friendships

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The Importance of New Friendships

A photo of my friends  Franzi  and  Martine

A photo of my friends Franzi and Martine

Making new friends gets harder and harder as we grow up. Being out of school and in an everyday routine means we often just see the same people over and over. For a while I also had a tendency to think people were already settled with their group of friends and not looking to form any new friendships, but I was wrong. Making new friends is such a good feeling; it’s inspiring and motivating, it can also completely change your daily life.

In the past year, I have formed a couple of new friendships that were definitely unexpected. Two of them were through work and it confirmed to me that it is still possible to build new connections in your twenties (also in an environment that can be competitive at times). I think work friends are the best because they make you want to get up and go to work, they uplift you, and you get to see them all the time. Even now, having left my job a month ago, I still talk almost daily with three of my ex-colleagues-now-pals there.

And since being in London, I have made new friends, but I have also cultivated a friendship that existed mostly online through Instagram DMs and blog comments. The people I’ve met in London are in the same boat as me; having left their home country to pursue their dreams in The Big Smoke. We are united by this common situation and now we get to exchange about it and live all of it together (almost like a family).

So that’s all from me today. I feel like I’m just so happy about these new friendships and I hope I get to experience that feeling many times again as I get older. The great thing about making new friends as adults is that it’s an active choice, it is not just because you are in the same class at school and befriend the first kid that wants to play with you. Let me know in the comments if you have experiences of making friends in your twenties!


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The Summer Reading Pile

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The Summer Reading Pile

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Ok maybe not for the whole summer… At the pace that I’m reading now, I’ll probably be done with these books by the end of June. There’s something quite comforting yet stressful when having a large ‘to read pile’ next to your bed. On one hand, I know I have amazing reading material waiting for me. On the other, it’s somewhat stressful because I feel rushed to go through all of them quickly so I get read even more books. You get the idea haha… But here I am with the ultimate summer reading list to get you inspired this summer!

A Little Life, Hanya Yanagihara

Many many many people have talked about this book and how emotional it made them feel. Perhaps the most striking review was the one posted by The Twenties Club. I’m going to have to wait to read this one because I think since it’s quite dramatic, I need to be in the right mood for it.

Atonement, Ian McEwan

When Pandora Sykes was asked about her favourite book by The Pound Project, she replied “Tough call. But I would say that Atonement made the most intense impression on me.” And this is why I picked it up when I saw it at the Oxfam bookshop.

The Mars Room, Rachel Kushner

I’ve seen this book many times on Instagram, and one of the reasons I wanted to read it was because it was shortlisted for the 2018 Man Booker Prize Award. Once again, this is a thrifted find!

One Day, David Nicholls

Another Pandora Sykes recommendation (sorry!) from her essay in the Comfort Zones anthology about the books she would want her daughter to read. I’ve seen the film a few years ago but I’m looking forward to reading it. Yesterday I also listened to David Nicholls’s interview on the How to Fail Podcast and his personal story was very compelling.

Ma’am Darling: 99 Glimpses of Princess Margaret, Craig Brown

This book is quite special because it combines facts with fiction about my favourite British royal: Princess Margaret. I have heard Craig Brown being interviewed about it in the Royally Obsessed podcast and it seemed like such a fun book to dip in and out of.

How to be Loved, Eva Hagberg Fisher

I brought this book to London with me and I have to be honest but I first noticed it because of its amazing cover! It’s a story about illness, friendship and so much more. I’m really looking forward to reading it.

What Red Was, Rosie Price

I just started this fantastic story by Rosie Prince after attending a panel with her last Wednesday. It’s her debut novel and she has received so much praise for it, notably because it discusses difficult themes like sexual assault. So far I am absolutely loving her tone of voice.

The Lido, Libby Page

Ending on a lighter note with another book about friendship, but this time an intergenerational friendship between two women swimming at the same Lido. Libby Page’s interview on the Let’s Discuss podcast will make you want to read it!


And the book I’ve just finished reading: ‘How To Fail’ by Elizabeth Day

Elizabeth Day is a force to be reckoned with. This is a heart-wrenching yet comforting novel about failing in different areas of your life. It is inspired by the journalist’s own failures from IVF, to a divorce, career failures, anger, etc. I’ve had the chance to see Elizabeth speak last week for a live version of her podcast with Zawe Ashton and she is one impressive woman (and so is Zawe)!

What are you planning to read this summer?

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How To Feel Less Lonely In A New City

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How To Feel Less Lonely In A New City

Image by Daphne David. Wearing clothes from Own The Couture & Love that Bag

Image by Daphne David. Wearing clothes from Own The Couture & Love that Bag

Moving country on your own can have its ups and downs. In my first week here, I felt both extremely excited and a bit lonely at times. Thankfully, there are ways to combat the loneliness until I settle completely, I just have to be open to the new possibilities! And today I’m sharing these ideas with you…

Meet people online

Instagram is probably the best app ever created because it allows you to meet people that share common interests (I guess Twitter is a bit the same). Through Instagram, I’ve met people my age with blogs (or not) that live in different cities across the world. It’s even better if they live in your new city. I’m meeting two of them in the coming week and I’m really looking forward to it. The easiest way is start a conversation with them about things you have in common or to reply to one of their posts and then who knows, maybe you will meet IRL and it will feel like you’ve been friends forever!

I’ve also heard of Bumble Bff, which is basically an app to meet friends, and I’m definitely planning on trying it!

Attend Events

While making friends is hard, you can always attend events. I’m talking events about something you love; a book Q&As with an author you like, a live podcast recordings, music shows, etc. Just the feeling of being surrounded with people that are there for the same reason you are can have a big impact on how you’re feeling. And although it can be harder to strike up a conversation with the people there because you feel vulnerable, these people are there for the same reason you are.

Events are easy to find on social media, but also on places like Eventbrite. If you’re into books like me, it’s worth checking bookstores and following your favourite authors.

Create background noise

This advice is for people who live on their own and have a lot of solitary time. Creating background noise, either by listening to a podcast, watching a YouTube video or putting on a movie, can make all the difference. Listen to these things while you walk on your own, while you cook or eat or while you’re cleaning up. What I like about podcasts is that they feel very intimate and often you’ll feel like you’re part of a conversation with friends. For podcast recommendations, see here, but at the moment I’ve really been loving ‘Things You Can’t Ask Yer Mum’ by Lindsey Holland and Lizzy Hadfield.

What are your tips for feeling less lonely in a new city?


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